I’ve seen the memes, the social media posts:
“I have three children–Jimmy, Sara, and my husband…”
“I’m not sure who is easir to raise–my children or my husband…”
There are far more memes which are far too vulgar to appear on my blog, but do you get my point? I cringe when I see it and I hope to high heavens that I never do it.
Let’s stop it. Let’s stop husband-bashing. Let’s stop equating our husbands with children needing to be raised or taught how to act.
Instead, let’s talk publicly about the positive things our husbands do for our families, in our homes, and in our lives. I promise this: if you pray for God to help your heart to focus on the positive things your man brings to the table, it’ll become more and more difficult for you to see the negatives that are there.
When we make these sorts of comments, I wonder if:
- we’re forgetting that we have an equally long list of imperfections that we bring to the table.
- we think that being in a marriage is permission to mistreat the one we’ve pledged to love and respect forever.
- we’re considering that we can actually be in a relationship with someone and work out the problems without sharing them with the entire world.
- we’re relying on our mentors or accountability friends to help us continue to be the holy wives we’re called to be.
This is a total heart issue; it’s not something we should take lightly when we feel ourselves saying or thinking these things.
Ephesians 5.33 says, “…let the wife see that she respects her husband.” I know the “respect” word seems charged in some circles, but respecting someone doesn’t mean being a doormat to them; it means to hold them in high regard. Let’s lift up our husbands and talk about how amazing they are instead of bashing them or putting them down.
We can be better.